When the Honeymoon Phase is Over

Every relationships starts out with that phase that we all call the "honeymoon phase." It's that point in the relationship at the beginning when everything seems so perfect, and basically this person shits glitter and roses. You get the goosebumps and the butterflies, and the two of you are inseparable by choice. This person has no flaws and does no wrong. But what happens when that phase ends?

A relationship can't always stay that way. Eventually, you've got to face reality and realize that your significant other's shit stinks just like everyone else's because you're finally to the point where you're comfortable enough to shit at one another's house. You suddenly realize that they chew like an elephant walks or the way they brush their teeth is disgusting to you. Maybe its that they don't separate lights and darks in the laundry. Maybe its that they laugh to loud or don't ever get off their phone. Whatever it is, you realize that this person isn't perfect; this person you love has flaws too. What do you do when the Honeymoon Phase is over?

Honestly, you move on. No, no, no, not to another relationship and start over; you move on with your current relationship. You realize that while this person has flaws, these flaws aren't life and death, and its not something you can't over look. In some cases, that's not possible, and that's definitely okay. When it comes to the honeymoon phase, it's all about growth. The two of you grow each and everyday. What matters is which direction you grow; together or apart.

Loving someone means loving them even with their flaws; its realizing that as much shit as they dish out, they're taking it as well. It's not going to be easy. You're going to have to compromise, and give in more than your foolish pride would like. But maybe that's the point; maybe, just maybe, the point of getting past the honeymoon phase and into the shit pile of your relationship isn't about how much shit you go through. Maybe it's about who's holding your hand while you're going.

When it comes to the end of the honeymoon phase, and you're thinking to yourself, "is this the person I want to spend the rest of my life with?" ask yourself the real question. Can you live without this person? Can you go a day without thinking about this person? Could you go a lifetime without seeing their smile?

If they answer is no, then I think you know the answer to that first question.
Ending the honeymoon phase isn't about putting the spark to rest; it's about igniting the real flame.